Who Needs Counselling?

“There is a way through whatever dilemma or difficulty you might be facing”


IMG_2180_1024x600This page is for people who may be new to counselling or feel some stigma or worry about getting into counselling.

It can feel like a big step or even a risky one to consider counselling. Will colleagues or family have judgments? Might you feel embarrassed to admit you are seeing a counsellor?

In some parts of society counselling is a normal, accepted way to deal with life issues. In others it is stigmatized and people feel embarrassed or are seen as less competent because they are receiving counselling. Whatever your situation, you can be assured that your counselling experience will be entirely confidential.

Such issues can be discussed in a confidential initial phone call or through email.

Psychological and emotional challenges are normal.

Who is affected?

According to Stats Canada:

  • Mental illness indirectly affects all Canadians at some time through a family member, friend or colleague.
  • In any given year, 1 in 5 people in Canada will personally experience a mental health problem or illness.
  • Mental illness affects people of all ages, education, income levels, and cultures.
  • Approximately 8% of adults will experience major depression at some time in their lives.

What qualities would I seek in a counsellor?

A professional counsellor offers empathy, understanding and objective listening. A counsellor should have the training and skills necessary to help you develop the resources you need for tackling the challenges you experience. A counsellor should have an up-to-date and good understanding of psychology, be well versed in various treatment approaches and be someone you can develop a rapport with.

When does a person need counselling?

Counselling is helpful in times of crisis or significant life transitions. It is helpful when you experience persistent unhappiness or when you feel “down” or depressed. Counselling is appropriate when you experience more anxiety or stress than feels manageable to you.

Counselling can help a person through the difficult times in life, so can, for example, a spiritual practice, good friends or physical exercise. But sometimes counselling is what is needed.

The counsellor is an objective listener, who can relieve you of the burden of “going it alone” or the worry about depending too much on the support of family and friends.

How we function in life is often rooted in our family of origin experiences, and in the beliefs and attitudes we inherited as children. Even though we may consciously shift away from family influence we are often more affected by it that we realize. Our behaviour does not always seem to be in our control and when we are triggered we may react out of habitual, perhaps half-conscious attitudes and beliefs. Counselling can help us examine these underlying mental, emotional or behavioural patterns. It can help us to articulate thoughts and feelings constructively. It can help us to examine and change behaviours and communication habits that undermine wellbeing and our relationship with self and others. It can help us become more compassionate toward this self that is suffering.

We are not at fault if we have not been able to develop the optimum skills for meeting life. Counselling offers a compassionate way to learn and grow. Counselling is an opportunity to develop a richer relationship with yourself in your life.

In brief, counselling can be for life’s immediate challenges or to develop and enhance the relationship with self and others–or both.

To make an appointment, or if you have further questions, please call me at 250-537-2831, or use the contact form on this site or by email.